Please Don't Ask If We're Pregnant

We're respectfully asking you all a favor in the coming weeks: please don't ask us if we're pregnant. Please don't ask "when I find anything out". Please don't stare at my face and try to get a reaction out of me. Please don't take a smile for a yes, or a tear for a no. Please don't try and coerce it out of us in any way.

We've been deprived of a lot of the fun and excitement of beginning a family. Please respect our space and privacy once we find out in the coming weeks and give us the opportunity to tell our loved ones the outcome when we're ready. A lack of treatment updates will mean nothing--we will be taking a break from treatment for awhile if this month is not successful and I will have another surgery for endo. So it would be awhile, probably months, before I would feel like posting again anyway.

We appreciate that you all care so much for us and are eager to find out. We appreciate it more than we'll ever be able to put into words, and we're not trying to diminish that in any way.

Your prayers are needed now more than ever. Because whether we're pregnant or not from this round, the emotions are going to be overwhelming. If we're not pregnant, we're afraid of the hurt our hearts will experience yet again as we close in on an entire year of disappointment. If we are pregnant, as over the moon joyous and grateful as we'll feel, we'll also be fearful of miscarriage, since we lost one precious baby already once before. 

Please pray that no matter the outcome, our hearts are protected by the hand of our Father in Heaven. He cares...and He's making that more apparent to me each and every day. Please pray for our immediate families who hate watching us in pain and hurt for the relationships that they're missing out on with our unborn children. Please pray that we'll make the right choices--when we eventually continue treatment or if we end this journey. Please pray that even if we never get the outcome we want, we'll find peace sooner than later, not feel as if our worth is lessened, and focus on the blessings we have already been given. 

We love you all.

Thomas & Abby